5/30/16

icons

I am deep in zine fest prep mode. Biggest thing on my list is to add art to some of the zines I've made in the last year (mostly books I put together on the fly right before a vending event.) Which means I spent my holiday weekend drawing William S. Burroughs, Lady Gaga, Prince, Bowie, and members of the Rolling Stones. These are my favorites.








5/19/16

new etsy cover photo


Doing some much needed updating to the eveyinorbit Etsy shop. Next on the list is to add my new zines, hand painted plates, and whatever zines I come up with from now until Atlanta Zine Fest. 

5/18/16

Chattanooga Zine Fest 2016

Had a blast vending at the Chattanooga Zine Fest this past weekend. Lilo and I made a mini adventure trip out of it, ate lots of vegan treats, swam in a heated salt water pool, and enjoyed so much greenery. Nashville is a lush place as well, but the more urban areas don't have old trees (or that many old buildings.) We felt surprisingly at home.


The 4th floor at Chattanooga's main library is the bee's knees. It's a huge maker space with a laser cutter, button makers, looms, a 3d printer, screen printing area, etc. Basically, a dream creative studio. As far as I know it is completely free to use for the community (nominal fees for supplies), and they have all sorts of classes/events to encourage you to MAKE STUFF.  

Plus they have a little gallery space and a well stocked zine library. 





My table was bonkers. I should have signed up for two, because I could barely fit my stuff. I have 22 zine titles now, of course with more on the way. By the next fest I vend at, which is looking like Atlanta, I hope to have a few magazine rack style wooden stands built which will free up the table for art plates and some much needed blank space for eye resting.


5/12/16

Rebel Rain


Working on some drawings of David Bowie and Prince for a zine I am calling Rebel Rain. Both artists have had an impact on me as a creative person. In fact, I have a short mix consisting of Let's Go Crazy, Darling Niki, Ashes to Ashes, Moonage Daydream, and covers of Absolute Beginners and Sound and Vision that I regularly use to break creative blocks. I never saw of either them live, and I definitely haven't listened to every album each made, but they made me dance with my freak flag waving high. 

5/10/16

king dumb come

I come from the deep, the zombie brains, the melodrama of pop radio music, the middle density where it is the hardest to dig yourself out. No tanks or bombs. Still, I come from the wreckage. Wandering homeless, cardboard motels filled with families who are filled with cheap chips and soda. The poor and richest of souls.

I come from the devout, dirty jean clad zealots on pilgrimages, unabashedly seeking the holy. The right. The kneelers of prayers both confused and misspelled. The tone deaf singers, entranced by ceremony, smokes, bells, and uniforms. hypnotic is the incense for it will render you faithful.

I come from the power, held over me, on top of me, through the opening of me. The sweaty heft of a godly Samaritan, carnal and kin. White robes woven of forgotten sins, rags tinted with shades of dignity. Baptismal, because of the fire. I come from the power of the word, the creed of silence, the glory of a righteous kingdom with bonds everlasting.

I come from the addiction, quietly desperate and stubborn as fuck. The drugged escaping to darkness ironically chased by the light. Twitching and fracturing the miles of pavement leading to cliffs set on the shallows. I come from misunderstanding, honestly and openly justified. Forgiveness for thy neighbor no matter my bent knees, my beating hammer, my pride.

I come from lambs masquerading as lions. Matted fur thick enough to drown in, thick enough to catch on, thick enough to choke on. I come from ritual, prayers, layers of cloth cloaks flowing and revered, ancient oils, and water turned into that most flammable. All the tools to hide and make the unspeakable disappear. All the tools of conspiracy.

I come from the house of glass, made in the image, blown cold over the ages. The family distorted by sympathy, the flock deceived by salvation. I come from the well, the giver of life, the salted and purified. I come from stones scratching for blood, from fruitless trees, from a hand on a knife. the pride of a small town.

5/1/16

studies for large canvas

Made these over the last few days. Realized half way through these sessions that I was making sketches for some larger painted pieces. I've never followed that process before, so I feel like I am on the verge of a creative breakthrough.







4/28/16

Coral Peach Pink


Went to an amazing fill a basket art scraps sale. I brought home a lot of randomness that I have no specific plans for. Stuff like bullet casings, the tape from video cassettes, and 12 plastic mouse heads. Lilo, as usually, thinks I am nuts. And, a hoarder. Guilty on both accounts. 

They had packs of markers grouped in colors. Now, I know better than to trust thrift store markers, but since I was paying for a bucket to large for me to fill I decided to try my luck. Super glad I did. I am having a love affair with the coral/peach/pink family. I used the markers and a tube of deep blue acrylic paint to make these drawings. I plan to turn my favorites into large paintings.

Remember when I would not dare to make anything larger than a playing card? 


4/6/16

My fat body is not yours


My fat body is not yours


There is a silence to being fat. An expectation of uncomfortable smiles and apologetic nods. There is a grace to being the literal elephant in most rooms. I move through life much like a trained dancer works a stage. Carefully. Deliberately. Exposed, with a soft blank face. The difference in my daily life and their performance is they are asking for the spotlight, asking for eyes to be glued to their body's every move. They want your criticism, your opinion. I do not.



My fat body is not an invitation

Let’s talk about what fat is. Fat is a descriptive word, but it’s not a feeling. No one feels fat. If you have ever said that, thought that, heard that, you were witness to a gross misuse of our dear English language. Fat is not a synonym for unattractive, lazy, sad, dumb, or the lesser. Fat people are all around you. Some are healthy, some are not. Same goes for thin people. This is a hard concept to grasp for some. It goes against everything we are taught about the obesity epidemic and the stereotype of the fat slob. The possibility of health at every size is real. It’s more common than you were taught to think.



My fat body is not an epidemic

I get a lot of unsolicited advice, allegedly out of concern about my health, from both friends and perfect strangers. If you would just… eat less. Exercise more. Get real with yourself. Decide to do it. Start logging your food. Start weighing yourself everyday. Stay mindful of your body every second of the day. Don’t stress. Let it happen. Make it happen. Stay motivated. Go to Weight Watchers. Go to the gym. Hire a trainer. Buy a treadmill. You don’t need fancy equipment. Lift soup cans. Just walk everyday. Count your steps. Follow a plan. Do anything. No excuses. See a counselor. Figure out why you don’t want to be skinny. What’s really stopping you? Starve yourself. Tape skinny girls to your fridge for inspiration. Stop eating meat. Only eat meat. Go raw. Weigh your food. Detox. Purge. Focus all you have on this one goal. Change your lifestyle. Try your best. Save your life.

I used to patiently listen to it all, take it to heart, and always walk away from these conversations feeling several things: (1) that I am a failure, (2) that my continued relationship with this person is incumbent on me correcting my fat failure ways, (3) that I must admit that I look unacceptable, (4) and that loving myself was something I could not possibly do until I lost weight.

Now I know about fat phobia, health myths, and the fact that even if they were 100% right and I 100% wrong that it would not really matter. It’s my body, and none of their business. Mine has to be the one and only opinion that matters when it comes to my self image. My health only affects me. Judging another body under the guise of health concerns is weak. Troll someone else.



My fat body is not a negotiation

They stare; sometimes with mouths agape, wide eyed, completely inconsiderate of the fact that I am a person standing in a line just trying to pay for my groceries. They point; then they turn to their table companions, share some whispers, and one at a time everyone at the table across the restaurant turns to look at mine, at me. A fat person daring to eat in public. They scowl and sometimes are even so bold as to run me through that shopping scene in Pretty Woman. But, I have money to spend in here. We don’t have anything for you, and we don’t want you stretching out anything you might try on. They assume; that I have diabetes and high blood pressure, that I can’t get laid, that I constantly smell, that I cry myself to sleep, that I have no friends, that I hate myself. They laugh without realizing that they are actually laughing at themselves.

Older women are particularly disgusted with my body type, and seem the most comfortable with sharing their unprovoked opinions. Years ago, I sat on a park bench in New York to eat my lunch next to a woman in her 70’s. She studied me a little too much as I ate my sandwich. As I turned to flash my angrily perplexed can I help you look she said, “You know, in my day, a woman of your size would not be caught dead eating in public.” I literally ran away.

Hate is just a reflection of the hater. That park bench woman could have been jealous. Maybe she felt oppressed by the social norms of her day. Maybe that was a poorly chosen opener to a conversation about how things are changing. Maybe the interaction could have turned positive. I’ll never know what her motivation was, but I can say for sure that it had nothing to do with me.


My fat body is not an embarrassment

Most commentary I receive about my size is subtle. The backhanded compliment is a sneaky little shit of a sentence designed to appear to be a positive comment, but really it just makes you feel confused and judged. “Your new haircut slims your face,” translates to you have a fat face. Thanks, I know, so what? Or, “I wish I had the confidence to show my legs off, like you are, in such a short skirt.” Again, thanks for noticing that I am awesome, but what this really means is that you are calling out my legs for not being up to beauty standards.

You think your insults are correctly placed consequences. After all, I did this to myself with Cheetos, right? Maybe I did, maybe there is more to that story. In any event, why must we fight?



My fat body is not a war zone

Unwelcome body commentary is uncomfortable and rage inducing. I am past the point of being shocked by its intrusiveness, its ignorance, or its righteousness. And, way past the point of thinking it is ever going to stop. In my younger years I mostly responded with a painful half smile while others ripped my body down, taking my insides with it. I apologized for people that should have been apologizing to me. I almost craved the taste of shame.

I’m 34 now. I consider myself a fat activist. My feet are firmly planted wherever I choose to press them, but I still lose my head in occasional clouds of insecurity. Body positivity, the fat acceptance movement, and all the beautiful self loving people of size that put their bodies and hearts on display through the interwebs have given me such strength and wisdom. Yet, I still struggle against internalized beauty standards. I still think twice before answering pool party invitations, before wearing tight clothing, before trusting compliments and relationships. I know my worth goes beyond my size, but I have not yet figured out how to deal with the attention my body attracts.


I posed this question to a close group of girlfriends the other day, “how do you deal with unsolicited body comments?” We are a sassy lot, so the first round of responses went something like, “just tell them to fuck off!” That often suffices, especially when the comment is some bro yelling fatty out of a car window. But, a more nuanced approach is often necessary, not just for the the commenter or the context of the environment, but for ourselves. What is the point of fighting hate with hate? I don’t always have the energy, but when I can I try to engage people a little further. Ask them why they felt the need to comment, ask them what is the point? Maybe that goes south and is more trouble than it is worth. Maybe they don’t deserve a gentle lesson. I don’t know.

All I can say is that comments be damned. I no longer have conversations about other bodies, because the point of them always seems to be making someone feel superior and thus another inferior. I am slowly retraining myself to look beyond bodies, to value people for their contribution to any given moment of life, and to practice compassion instead of criticism. Value comes from within. I don’t let people in that space anymore, and I do not attempt to intrude on others. I am starting to get brave enough to confront others when they turn judgmental. These people are often my friends, which makes it an extra risky confrontation, but I think also the most worthy. Out of respect for my body positive self I refuse to be complicit in body shame, and I just want all the people I love to join me.



My fat body is not broken

I am no longer interested in being a good fatty. I wear what I want, which sometimes includes tight clothing that shows the visible outline of my big belly. The clothes that go on my body are there for me. I no longer make a point of discussing my food choices so as to appear to smaller people that I am doing everything in my power to become one of them. I do workout, I do bench triple digits, I can run a mile without falling over. I love myself enough to train my body to do those things so I can enjoy activities I like, nothing more. The opinion, praise, or approval of others where my gloriously fat body is concerned are unnecessary.




My fat  body is    not 


yours

10/11/15

Reactionary


I was hoping that by participating in a daily drawing challenge I would get into the habit of taking a little time everyday to doodle. Drawlloween has been happening for 11 days, and I have created more than 4 drawings per day on average. Some I am even satisfied enough with to use in zines or replicate in prints. Definitely got my money's worth there. 

The timing of this exercise is quite perfect. I have been stripping away the layers in my work for quite sometime, going from acrylic heavy mixed media, to watercolors, and now just ink. At the same time details are coming more into focus; faces have eyes, silhouettes have feet (however anatomically incorrect they may be.) There is a willingness to make more decisions.  

My style has also become more clear. Never have I looked at a person and committed to drawing them as I saw them or felt them. But lately, out of sheer creative confidence, the will is just there to follow through. Grounding and lifting me in tandem. Where I would once cringe and quit, because of a misplaced line or an unrealized vision, I now push to see what will happen once the face is rendered. 

Reaction is what I love most about making art, and I think I have gone further than granting myself permission to indulge in that, I wholeheartedly reject the premise that there is any other option.